"I just CAN'T say no!"
How many times have you heard yourself say this?
I bet you wish you could say that little word. To those requests that take your time, that you don't really feel like doing but you say 'yes' to
anyway.
How much do you enjoy those activities you agree to with such reluctance? How much resistance or resentment is there in your system when you do them?
I get it. I used to think I couldn't say no either. I ended up working countless hours, many nights, felt SUPER frustrated, annoyed, RESENTFUL, exhausted, overwhelmed with everything I'd promised to do. I didn't love my life. The worst was, I didn't think I could change
anything.
One day, a question from a colleague stopped me in my tracks. I had SO MUCH to do. As usual. This time, I was in tears. I couldn't see a way out of the mess. I felt trapped.
"Liesel, WHO gave you all this work?", she asked.
GULP...
I had to sit quietly and take that in. I knew, suddenly. It was ME. I had volunteered for every single piece of it. I was feeling 'noble' at the time,
rescuing other people, thinking I could do it better or smarter.
That day I GOT it. I was doing this to myself. I made changes, took a few things off my plate. I could breathe again.
Until the NEXT time I found myself in a similar, extremely tight spot. That was on an NLP course where I was again confronted with this pattern - and how I perpetuate it - in TECHNICOLOUR.
