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Here's what's in store today:
1. A short article about 'Being Yourself'
2. Fall in Love with Presenting for Introverts
3. Monthly Tapping Circle -
"Procrastination"
"By being yourself, you put something beautiful into the world that wasn't there before." – Edwin Elliott
When I hear these words, I want to scream YES! Yet how many of us live our lives trying to be more like someone else?
With good reason, usually - we admire a trait in someone else and we think that trait is valuable and
desirable.
Or the other side - we don't like something in ourselves, and try to be more like someone else.
Or, we just think that being 'plain old me' isn't good enough, smart enough, funny enough, loveable enough, kind enough, clever enough, thin enough, WHATEVER enough..... and it's somehow better to be another person.
The funny thing is - I can almost
guarantee you that person that you're trying to emulate, has the same going on for them... THAT person also has "I'm not xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx enough" and they're also trying to be more like a friend, a colleague, a mentor.
Is this really a good way to spend our precious energy?
Can you begin to see, in the first place, what hard work and effort this is?
And how unbelievably weird it is that so
many of us are trying to be someone else?
And - how we're denying the world of something beautiful that cannot come into existence any other way than through us?
It's about Growth - not about being something you're not
Of course - there will always be ways that we can grow, and improve, and do things differently than we did yesterday. That's a beautiful and worthy aim. And it keeps us
humble. There IS always more to learn.
What would happen if you embrace, love and celebrate the unique combination of perspective, talents, qualities, knowledge, experience, skill and points of view that only you can bring into the world?
If you don't, the world loses something beautiful that will never, ever exist again. Ever.
Why is it hard sometimes?
Of
course, if we grew up with loads of messages that "You ARE not good enough" or "You should be more x" or "We love you only if you are like this", then this IS easier said than done.
Some of us experienced more judgment and criticism than others during childhood. Those memories, and the emotional charge they left, are most often responsible for the feelings we have about ourselves, and our value in the
world.
Here's an important point:
I'm not saying "It's as easy as just deciding to be yourself."
It CAN be, yes. For some people. And for others, it's harder due to many hurtful, damaging childhood messages and programming.
The good news is - we can overcome it, fortunately!!
Ideas to get there
It may not happen overnight, in my experience. and - it is possible. (Overnight is overrated anyway. No plant grows or flowers overnight). Here are some ideas for when you're wiling to go on that incredibly fulfilling journey of loving yourself just the way you are:
1. Find a practitioner to kindly, gently, and safely, help you
through some work to process childhood traumas and events that lead to you believing you're not xxxxxx enough. It IS scary and sometimes not okay to try and do this work by yourself. Find someone you can trust completely. Someone to guide you and create a safe space for exploring and being honest.
2.
Discover your strengths and talents. Those things that come so naturally and easily to you that you don't even have to
think about
them. You can do this by either asking friends and family to name a few positive qualities or ways you are that they love about you. Or, you can use a tool like
Gallup StrengthsFinder, with loads of research and science behind it. If you take this assessment, please also make sure you have a conversation with someone who can help you dig up the gold for YOU,
personally, in your own life. A very unsatisfactory way to do it, is to read the report Gallup sends you, and then put the report in your bottom drawer. I guarantee you nothing in your life will change if you do that. :)
3. Start focusing on your strengths, and use them somewhere every day in service to others. When we help someone else, when things are not just about us, it tends to lead to fulfilment.
4. Keep
clearing the beliefs or thoughts in the way of believing that you're an awesome human being that has value JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
I'd love to hear from you.
- What do you find SUPER easy that other people around you don't find as easy?
- Where have you received compliments about an ability you have, or something you do well, AND it's really easy
and natural for you?
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Fall in Love with Presenting for Introverts
*** Only 2 places available ***
If you're anything like many of the introverts I work with, you
have a desire to make a difference in the world. To make it a better place, to bring into it more love, peace and kindness. And you likely have work or a business that reflect that.
Yet when the time comes to speak up or present, you might have a sick feeling of anxiety in your stomach. Your mouth maybe goes dry, your voice might tremble or you might even go bright red. You may have a love-hate relationship with
presenting - you really WANT to share your work, and at the same time, you really don't want to....
Does that sound or feel familiar?
I'm excited and grateful to let you know that I'm offering a brand new online workshop to help Introverts get over that fear. We're going to clear out all the emotional stuff that prevents you from even
trying.
It's ONLINE, easy to attend, you'll get recordings, and there's no driving or sitting in traffic. It's also introvert-friendly with 6 places in total, and ONLY 2 more available spots
:)
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