Hello ! What to do if things in our 'outer world' are not the way you want them...

Published: Mon, 07/23/18

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Library books and fines :)
An article: What to do if things in your outer world are not the way you want them to be
Next workshop: How to have a Difficult Conversation with Courage

This past week I found out my library books are almost 3 weeks late and I have a <GULP> 17 GBP fine!! Ouchie!!!

I'm not only behind with returning library books... Time seems to disappear and I keep meaning to send a quick newsletter. If you had to give me a fine for every time I 'meant' to, and haven't, you'd have a stack of my Pounds too! :)

I wrote a post recently on my Facebook Business Page that had some interesting thoughts from friends, colleagues and clients. Part of it is here in this email, and the rest published on my own website. I'd love your comments or thoughts too. What are we to do if our outer world is not the way we want it, and we desperately want things to change?

Alison and I hosted "How to Have a Difficult Conversation with Courage" in the new program format (3 modules) and it was a beautiful, empowering experience. We're offering it again in the latter half of August. Details in the email below.

What to do if things in your outer world are not the way you want them to be

Get the inside right. The outside will fall into place.”
—Eckhart Tolle

A client wrote me and from her email, it was clear that she was in a desperate place. She wants a new career – the current one is making her very unhappy. It’s unfulfilling and boring, and she feels desperate to do something else with her life. There’s a sense of urgency there. She wants it as soon as possible – yesterday would be good!

I understand that so well.

I remember so clearly a difficult day just soon after I started my healing practice. I had resigned from my work as a computer programmer and was earning virtually no income with my practice yet. I was so frustrated because I had all these new healing tools and skills… and no-one to use it on.

All my talents really love supporting others – so to have no clients, no-one to support, was very difficult. I felt worthless, like I had no value – and that the only way I could demonstrate my value as a person, would be to have clients and use my talents.

On that particular day, I was feeling enormously frustrated and desperate. That feeling of desperation made me do something really strange. Desperation wants immediate results – have you noticed? There’s no patience there….

So I decided to get in my car, and go to a huge shopping centre closeby – and that I would not come back until I’ve acquired a new client.

Read the Full Article Here

How to Have a Difficult Conversation with Courage

You'll learn:

Practical skills so that you can approach any difficult conversation (or potential conflict) with confidence and courage.

What happens in your brain when you think of disagreement or conflict.
A method to help you feel calm and collected before, during and after difficult conversations.
How to minimize the emotional charge so you can THINK clearly.
How to keep yourself safe during a challenging conversation

The 3 basic components of dealing with conflict.
How to be assertive without aggression.
Simple steps to clarify your own thinking and be well prepared.
To listen well and help the other person to hear you.
How to feel curious instead of threatened.
Step by step how to approach someone with respect, express your side fully, hear the other person’s side, and find a solution.

We'll have a set of 3 classes online - so it doesn't matter where in the world you are, you can attend.

Dates: 21 Aug, 28 Aug, 4 Sept 2018 (all 3 need to be attended)
Times: 4.45 pm UK, 5.45 pm SA, 11.45 Eastern, 10.45 am Central, 9.45 am Mountain, 8.45 am Pacific

Fee: $120 (for SA participants, please mail me directly for an exchange-rate Coupon.)

Live participants will receive the recordings.

Any questions? Feel free to reply to this email, or send a message from the bottom of the web page.

From a recent participant:

"Liesel and Alison make a great team sharing their knowledge on “How to have a difficult conversation” Alison shares her knowledge on communication while Liesel showed me how to keep my emotions calm. With all these skills in my bag, I was able to have a difficult conversation with a family member, that has been “The big elephant in the room” for the last 3 years. I was always fearful of what the outcome might be and how they might react, or perhaps they may be angry. I followed the steps that I learnt, wrote down the points, and WOW, it went so easy, with a great positive outcome. A big thank you to Liesel and Alison for empowering me to have the courage to “Have a difficult conversation”.

With kindness and warmth,

Liesel Teversham

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